Fertility Anxiety Therapy in San Francisco Individual & Couples Support
Rouse Relational Wellness offers specialized therapy for fertility anxiety in San Francisco and throughout California via telehealth. Whether you're trying to conceive naturally, undergoing IVF or other fertility treatments, experiencing pregnancy loss, or deciding whether to pursue parenthood, our Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists and Associate Marriage and Family Therapists can help you manage the emotional toll of your fertility journey.
Fertility anxiety therapy addresses the unique stress, grief, relationship strain, and identity questions that arise when trying to build your family. We work with individuals, couples, and partners of all genders and relationship structures—including LGBTQ+ individuals, polyamorous families, and single parents by choice—in a shame-free, affirming environment.
FAQs
What Is Fertility Anxiety?
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Fertility anxiety encompasses the emotional challenges that can arise during your journey to parenthood:
Stress and worry about conceiving or staying pregnant
Grief after pregnancy loss or failed fertility treatments
Relationship strain between partners with different approaches to family building
Identity questions about parenthood, gender, and what family means to you
Medical trauma from invasive procedures or disappointing test results
Social isolation when friends and family don't understand your experience
Decision fatigue about treatment options, timelines, and next steps
Financial stress from the cost of fertility treatments
Body image concerns and feeling betrayed by your body
These feelings are normal responses to an incredibly challenging experience. Therapy can help you develop coping strategies, process grief and loss, improve communication with your partner(s), and make aligned decisions about your path forward.
Who Fertility Anxiety Therapy Serves
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Our therapy is designed for:
Individuals trying to conceive who are experiencing anxiety or depression
Couples navigating fertility challenges together
People undergoing IVF, IUI, or other assisted reproductive technologies
Those who have experienced pregnancy loss or multiple miscarriages
LGBTQ+ individuals and couples pursuing parenthood through various paths
People exploring donor conception, surrogacy, or adoption
Those deciding whether to continue fertility treatments or move toward acceptance
Partners experiencing relationship stress related to fertility challenges
Single people pursuing parenthood by choice
Polyamorous families navigating fertility decisions with multiple partners
We welcome all gender identities, sexual orientations, and relationship structures in a fully affirming practice.
What to Expect in Fertility Anxiety Therapy
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Fertility anxiety therapy at Rouse is personalized to your unique situation. Sessions typically include:
Initial Assessment (First 1-2 sessions) Your therapist will learn about your fertility journey, current stressors, relationship dynamics (if relevant), and what you hope to gain from therapy.
Developing Coping Strategies Learn practical tools to manage anxiety between appointments, medical procedures, and during the two-week wait. This might include mindfulness techniques, cognitive reframing, or nervous system regulation.
Processing Grief and Loss If you've experienced pregnancy loss or failed treatments, therapy provides space to grieve without judgment or pressure to "stay positive."
Improving Communication For couples, we help you navigate difficult conversations about treatment decisions, financial concerns, sexual intimacy, and differing levels of hope or readiness.
Identity Exploration Many people experience shifts in their sense of self during fertility challenges. Therapy helps you explore questions about parenthood, gender, body image, and what family means to you.
Decision Support When you're facing decisions about whether to continue treatments, pursue alternatives, or move toward acceptance, therapy provides a structured space to explore your options.
Sessions are 50-55 minutes and typically held weekly or biweekly, though frequency can be adjusted based on your needs. Many clients work with us throughout their fertility journey and transition to other support as needed.
Our Approach to Fertility Anxiety
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At Rouse, we understand that fertility challenges intersect with identity, relationships, medical systems, and societal expectations. Our approach is:
Shame-Free and Sex-Positive We recognize that fertility journeys often impact sexual intimacy and bring up feelings about bodies, gender, and desire. We create space to discuss these topics without shame.
Identity-Affirming Whether you're LGBTQ+, polyamorous, single by choice, or in any other family configuration, we honor your path to parenthood without assumption or judgment.
Trauma-Informed We understand that fertility treatments and pregnancy loss can be medically traumatic. We use gentle approaches that respect your nervous system.
Relationship-Centered For couples and partners, we help you stay connected through this challenge rather than letting it drive you apart.
Grief-Informed We make space for all the losses that can occur—not just pregnancy loss, but loss of the expected timeline, the imagined experience, and sometimes the hope of biological parenthood.
Our therapists are trained in approaches including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), mindfulness-based stress reduction, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, and grief counseling.
Our Support
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At Rouse Relational Wellness, our therapy services can help to support you through the anxiety that can come with your fertility journey. Our providers can help teach you useful coping skills to better manage the stress and anxiety of trying to conceive.
We'll help you to identify any negative thoughts or beliefs that are getting in the way of your fertility journey, and find more supportive and healthier ways to relate to this process.
We’re here for you.
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We understand the emotional impact of trying to conceive, and we can provide social and emotional support to help you through this difficult time.
Our providers can help normalize your feelings and provide a safe space to discuss your experiences and emotions. We will also guide so that you can make sure to take care of yourself during this process.
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We know that fertility journeys can bring up anxiety and shame, and we can help you work through these emotions.
Our providers will work with you to develop strategies for managing your anxiety and help you identify any shame or guilt that might be getting in the way of your fertility journey.
We'll offer support and guidance as you work toward your goal of becoming a parent.
Cost and Insurance for Fertility Anxiety Therapy
Individual Therapy Rates (50 min)
Phoenix Mandel, AMFT, CSE - $200
Marjorie Boggs Vazquez, LMFT - $235
Emerald Aueyong, LPCC - $235
Couples Therapy Rates (75 min)
Phoenix Mandel, AMFT, CSE - $255
Marjorie Boggs Vazquez, LMFT - $300
Emerald Aueyong, LPCC - $300
We have providers who are in-network with United Healthcare and Optum insurance plans.
For some other plans, our in-house billing team can handle the paperwork to get you reimbursed after your sessions.
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Three Hour Couples Intensives
Phoenix Mandel, AMFT, CSE - $800
Marjorie Boggs Vazquez, LMFT - $1200
*intensives are not covered by insurance