Anxiously Intimate Retreat

A supportive day for Anxiously Intimate group members, former retreat members, and Rouse clients

September 6, 2025

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Norouz with Rouse - An attachment retreat with a Persian-y twist.

March, 2026

September 6, 2025

Location TBD

Previous retreats were located at the historic Jikoji Zen Center in the Santa Cruz Mountains

Leave the retreat feeling restored and motivated to improve your relationships

Exclusive to current and former Rouse clients:

  • Beautiful surroundings allow you to drop in with yourself

  • Discussions on masculinity, authority, and vulnerability

  • Actionable goals to improve your relationships

  • Rewrite your sexual narrative

  • Reset your nervous system

  • Group processing

  • Breathwork

Develop a healthier attachment style and gain confidence in yourself.

September 6, 2025

Location TBD

Rewire Your Patterns

Take what you’ve learned from your time with Rouse providers and bring it to life in our retreat setting.

Our retreat will be a sandbox to push the edges of your comfort:

  • Drop into your body with somatic practices

  • Practice vulnerability through giving and receiving support

  • Reset your nervous system because, damn, you need it

  • Build comfort with platonic and supportive relationships with other men

You’ll leave the one-day retreat with a sense of accomplishment, curiosity, and community. This retreat will leave you with more questions than answers, and a chance to refine your skills to continue your work.

You will be led by experienced professionals trained in helping men learn their attachment style, develop healthier coping skills, and create deeper relationships with themselves and others. Our retreat will be based on the writings of David Khalili, LMFT, and his book “Mental Health Workbook for Men.”

Our retreat will include meditation, somatics, group processing, individual coaching, and solo time for processing and integration. Participants will leave with a workbook and refined goals and clarity on their next steps for building a more secure attachment style.

The Mindful Bond’s Retreat is right for you if you want to stop:

  • Constantly worrying about what others think about you

  • Feeling anxious about your connection with your partner

  • Feeling avoidant around other men

  • Being quick to anger or worry

  • Avoiding relationships

Cultivate Mindfulness with Experienced Professionals

You will work with David Khalili, LMFT and other experienced professionals trained in helping men strengthen their attachment style and emotional well being. The retreat will be based on the writings of David Khalili LMFT, and his book “Mental Health Workbook for Men.” You will gain personalized insight into how to apply the techniques and strategies shared in the book into your own life.

David will provide guidance and support throughout the day to help you learn how to gain security and confidence and deepen your relationships with others.

In addition, we will bring in providers such as those in movement and other holistic practices to round out your experience.

Ryan Noble, LMFT, will join us to facilitate group discussions and processing on attachment in relationships.

Philip Huang, AMFT will join us to lead group somatic practices inspired by the Radical Faerie community.

  • David F Khalili is a Licensed Therapist, board-certified sexologist, and founder of Rouse Relational Wellness, a boutique couples and sex therapy center serving San Francisco and all of California. David’s book Mental Health Workbook for Men was published recently to help men improve their relationships with themselves and others.

    David’s focuses on working with men, couples, groups, and multi-ethnic individuals. Before training in psychotherapy, David was a peer sex educator, worked in sex shops in California and Texas, and received his Masters degree in Sexuality Studies from San Francisco State University, where his work focused on Middle Eastern queer folks as well as the intersections of kink and trauma. You can learn more about David’s practice at rousetherapy.com.

  • Ryan offers individual, couples and group therapy at Rouse Relational Wellness. Outside of Rouse, Ryan is an Adjunct Professor at USF’s Counseling Pychology Graduate Program. Hear more from Ryan:

    “Everyone has the potential for growth, healing, and self-discovery. In my career I have been fortunate to working with individuals, couples, and families from a diverse range of backgrounds and experiences. I have witnessed the resilience that each person has and how providing support can help people channel their unique strengths, resources, and insights. I aim to create a safe and supportive environment that empowers those I work with to explore their emotions and experiences and to work towards developing greater self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-confidence.”

  • Philip joins Rouse with a wealth of experience working with compulsive sexual behavior, erotic somatic practices, and training from the Radical Faerie and Tantra communities.

    Hear more from Philip:

    “Why do we suffer? Because we fear. Rejection, loss, change, failure, humiliation, loneliness, abandonment. No, the world has not invented any new fears. How do we meet fear?  We run, fight, hide, blame, whine, push, control, cling, appease, numb ourselves, pity ourselves, play victim, play martyr, hoard security till we suffocate, lock parts of ourselves away and drag ourselves through our precious days for the sake of safety and appearances. No, we can never get enough of what we don’t really want.  And the wheel of suffering turns again.”

Jikoji zen center rouse relational wellness

Jikoji Zen Center grounds

What will we talk about?

Some topics discussed:

  • What’s the difference between Anxious and Avoidant Attachment?

  • Holding yourself accountable to your values

  • Productive shame versus toxic shame

  • Hearing no, saying no

  • Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries

  • Why is it so hard to ask for help

  • Deepening your relationships past sex

  • And more

FAQs

  • Exclusive to current and former Rouse clients:

    • Attended previous retreats in 2023 or 2024

    • Current or former member of Anxiously Intimate men’s group facilitated by David F Khalili, LMFT, Ryan Noble, LMFT, or Philip Huang, AMFT

    • Current or former individual clients of Rouse Relational Wellness

    Ready to advance your understanding of sexuality, relationships and yourself? Let’s get started.

  • On top of the retreat, you will also get:

    • Signed copy of David’s book “Mental Health Workbook for Men

    • Meet with your group online one week before and one week after the intensive to encourage connection and efficiency

    • Bespoke approaches to your challenges

    • Meals, drinks and snacks included Friday night through Sunday afternoon

    • Beautiful lush green surroundings at a historic zen center in the Santa Cruz Mountains

    • Leave with more clarity on your goals and intentions to reduce shame and anxiety

    Advanced packages offered. Scroll below for more detail.

  • $325 - sign up by May 30th

    $355 - sign up by June 30th

    $375 - sign up after July 1st

Testimonials

Retreat Participant

“I have hope that if I get in touch with my shame and anxiety, I’ll find a way through it.

Workshop Participant

“Rouse helped me by taking my focus into the experience, allowing me to feel less stressed.”

Retreat Participant

“I appreciated how I was able to put myself out there and make important connections.”

Workshop Participant

David is a knowledgeable and down-to-earth presenter. He teaches with great thoughtfulness and dry humor and did a great job making time for participants to bring in their questions.”

Former Client

In our time working with David, our communication and conflict-resolution skills improved significantly. We learned to de-escalate conflict, approach each other with curiosity, and work through any issues in a loving, connected manner.

Retreat Participant

“I feel more excited about my future.”

Itinerary

Saturday

9 am - Gather (Light breakfast provided)

9:30 am - Light Movement/Stretching

10 am - Somatic Practices

11 am - Breathwork

11:30 am - Break

12 pm - Hike to the ridgeline for lunch (Organic lunch provided)

*Subject to change

1 pm - Group circle - What is masculine vulnerability?

2:30 pm -  Solo journaling - Rewrite your sexual narrative

3 pm - Group Circle - Just some guys doing their nails and talking about sex

4 pm - Group circle and experience - Reclaiming Pleasure

5 pm - Closing circle

5:30 pm - Part ways until next time…

What’s Included?

Your refocusing retreat will include:

  • Free copy of Mental Health Workbook for Men ($17)

  • 10 hours of supportive experiences ($600)

    • Pre- and post-retreat zoom meetings for prep and integration

    • All somatic, coaching, and group programming listed above

  • Healthy and organic food and drinks ($75)

  • Beautiful surroundings of the retreat center

  • Goodie bag with wellness and relationship materials, snacks and fun surprises ($100)

  • Meditation classes (Priceless)

  • Finely-crafted dick jokes ($69)

  • Practicing vulnerability while giving and getting support from other men (Priceless)

  • Deeper understanding of attachment and a clear plan to improve relationships (Priceless)

Pricing:

$325 - sign up by May 30th

$355 - sign up by June 30th

$375 - sign up after July 1st

  • Payment plans available

  • Some sliding scale slots available

  • 11 CEUs available for California LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and LEPs -add on for $50

This is going to be a stunning retreat. One not to be missed, especially before the summer.

Connect with men who understand.